Practice "The Pause"
Updated: Aug 4, 2019
Practicing “the pause” is something I have had to work on in my life.
When I encounter a situation that is not ideal, I’ve always felt the need to, “say what needs to be said,” or “do what needs to be done,” rather than taking the time to pause for a moment to reflect on the situation and think about how to construct an appropriate response.
This is a flaw of mine that I work on daily.
Warren Buffett has been quoted saying, “You will continue to suffer if you have an emotional reaction to everything that is said to you. True power is restraint. If words control you, that means everyone else can control you. Breathe and allow things to pass.”
By overreacting and taking things too personally, we often unconsciously add to our own pain and suffering. It is best to be selective in our battles and choose to settle for peace rather than determining a winner or loser. You must train your mind to be stronger than your emotions. If not, you will lose battles with yourself every time.
The next time you’re in a high intensity situation, I challenge you to try to control the way you respond. Life is less about what happens to you and more about how you react to it, so
don’t get upset with people or situations - both are powerless without your reaction.
You, as a person, are defined by how you respond.
Always practice “the pause.”
“Pause before judging
Pause before assuming
Pause before accusing
Pause whenever you’re about to react harshly
And you’ll avoid doing and saying things you’ll later regret.”